Mrs. Verma says it came as a shock when she inadvertently found that her 13 year old daughter had a boyfriend. “ I read his email to her by mistake” says Mrs. Verma. “ I didn’t know what to do. I wanted to shout at her and even lock her up in her room,” she says.
Today, Mrs. Verma is thankful she did none of those things. Instead, she decided to delicately broach the subject and pray that her daughter would take her into confidence. She did. “ The ice broken, i was able to advise her on the relationship,” says Verma.
“ We have to accept it. Children are getting into romantic relationships at a young age,” she says. “ Parents who communicate with their children openly will know when this happens. The best thing to do then is to tell them the right and wrong of the relationships. Give them the right inputs and pray that they will make the right choices. Do not make them feel like criminals or they will retaliate and not tell you anything in future. They might even start viewing you as a stranger with unreasonable expectations,” she adds.
Dr. Bhagat’s advise is: “Help the children take decisions regarding their life, but do not dictate their decisions. Find a way of talking about difficult issues like sex and drugs. Try not to panic when the child explores his or her sexuality through relationships. And most important, respect the child’s privacy and dignity.”
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