When Akash scored 68% in his class X examinations, his father, a public sector employee, went into depression. When he came out of it, he decided to make his son repeat the class. The boy was kept in solitary confinement at home and made to study 17 hours a day. By the time he reappeared for the exam he had already cleared, Akash was a nervous wreck. This time round, he scored 49%. His father beat him black and blue.
The boy lost his sleep and appetite, remained scared and anxious, and showed symptoms of social withdrawl. Finaly, his father took him to the stress management clinic.“ The first ten sessions that we had with the family were dedicated to dealing with the internal insecurities of the father. It turned out that the father’s own sense of under achievement was being directed at the son” says Doctor.
A study conducted by an NGO working with schools in Delhi,proved that cases such as Akash’s are by no means an exception. The study, which psychologically profiled 1200 students from 100 schools found that nearly 60 percent of the students who showed signs of pressure had parents suffering from a sense of underachievement.
“ Even the most lovig parents often do not realise that they are using their child to fulfill their own aspirations and treating him or her as a mere extension of their own selves,” says Dr. Rajesh.
The parents’ argument is that they only want their child to grow up into a well – rounded individual, who has not missed out anything during his growing up years like they did. But just stop and think for a moment -
Do you really want your child to grow up as an anxious young person? Or would you rather allow him the time to enjoy his childhood and shape up as a balanced, relaxed and well – adjusted individual?
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